Pregnancy Loss

To My Clients Who Have Experienced Pregnancy Loss:

Recently, I read a quote from the book Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy by Worden (pg. 9) that states: “Each person’s grief is like all other people’s grief; each person’s grief is like some other person’s grief; and each person’s grief is like no other person’s grief.”

I love this quote and will probably share it often. It captures something that feels so true to me—that we can go through something many others have gone through and still feel deeply alone in it. Grief is often like that: humanizing and isolating all at once.

Pregnancy loss, like many forms of grief, is often misunderstood or minimized. It may be considered a disenfranchised loss, meaning the grief that follows is not always acknowledged, validated, or given space. Others may not understand it. They may not know what to say. They may offer silence—or worse, platitudes. And sometimes, there’s an unspoken expectation that you need to “move on” quickly or not feel much at all.

But your grief deserves space.

Your experience—whatever it looked like—deserves tenderness.

The moment you learned you were carrying life, you may have begun to imagine a future. Or maybe the news came with uncertainty, fear, or difficult decisions. Perhaps you had hopes. Perhaps you had doubts. Perhaps you made the most loving, complicated choice you could in a situation that felt impossible—or maybe the choice was not yours, a loss resulting from medical complications beyond your control.

Here is what I want you to know:

You don’t need permission to grieve.

You don’t need to minimize your pain or rush your healing.

There is no timeline. No comparison. No right way to feel.

You are not alone.

And you are allowed to honor this in your own time, in your own way.

Offering empathy and support,

Katie

These thoughts come from my experience as a therapist and a human. They’re not medical or mental health advice. Everyone’s journey is different—please reach out for support if you need it.